Tagged rebirth

In Defense of Polyamory

I would like to make something very clear. Polyamory was not the direct cause of the dissolution of my marriage. It was an indirect cause. It ignited a fire in a relationship that was already fractured (mixed metaphors, I know). You can count on poly to be a lot of hard work, emotional upheaval, and,…

An ember of hope

There are some confusing feelings bubbling up inside of me this morning. There is love and hope and a timid curiosity. They are gentle, swirling feelings. These feelings have bubbled up before, but something feels different this time. In the past, my hope has ended up exploding into disappointment and disaster. Resentment, anger, and putting up…

How polyamory cracked me wide open

Polyamory. Heard of it? It is a lifestyle choice. It is the belief that ethical non-monogamy is a more natural way of love and life for some (not all) people. It rests on the belief that no one person can meet all of your needs. No one relationship can fulfill you; that monogamy is not a…

The tendrils of Codependency

Every single morning I wake up in a panic. Maybe not full-blown, but touches of anxiety that range from a tight chest and stomach, to feelings of worthlessness, despair, and longing. I have been in a codependent relationship for the last 16 years. I am now trying to untangle the cords that have bound me to…